Marriage Advice from Notorious BIGs Mom

Lil' Kim and Notorious B.I.G. Photo: Evan Agostini/Getty Images

This is a weird as it gets. The movie Notorious opens this week, about the life and death of rap singer Notorious B.I.G. (Shucks, it's another one I'll just have to miss.) After watching the movie, Big's mom, Voletta Wallace realized how badly Big treated his erstwhile girlfriend Lil' Kim ("Voletta Wallace, Biggie's Mom, Says She 'Felt Bad' For Lil' Kim").

I'm not a fan of Big (or rap, or rappers, or the whole music industry "lifestyle" for that matter). I see absolutely no redeeming value in immortalizing Big, his dubious life, or his antisocial behavior with a movie. It seems obvious to me that if a man is seriously dating a woman, that he shouldn't be two timing. In Big's case, he ran off and married someone else. That is unacceptable and downright bad behavior.

But Big's mom sees things just a little differently, viewed through the skewed lens of modern promiscuity and society:

"If you're gonna get married and you're dating somebody and seeing somebody, at least sit down and talk to this person. Don't just go get married and walk away from somebody that really cared for you. I really felt bad for [Lil' Kim]."

This coming from a mother who "never knew that relationship was really that deep," at least until she had to watch the extent of her son's misbehaviors in a major motion picture.

I grew up in a different world than this. If you're dating someone, then you should have the courtesy to stop dating them before you get married to someone else. Mrs. Wallace's comments are kind of telling, though, about how far we've dropped in basic civility.

With Notorious leading the way, Hollywood makes another hero out of a value-less life.